Why do people in relationships think they are relationship whisperers? I went to my sister’s house the other day to see if she wanted to do some media work for me for an event I was covering. Little did I know the resentment she harbored against me.
As she listed my offenses, all I could do was a hard eye ball roll in the back of my head over the pettiness.
The real problem is we make exceptions for ourselves, projections for ourselves, but little corrections for ourselves, and it’s because of the perception of ourselves. We both share the blame for the strained relationship. When you had too many ups and downs with someone, there’s no clean slate. Old shit keeps coming up. Things you thought were long forgotten about.
On a few occasions, she and I were supposed to collaborate on a media project, but we could never see eye to eye. She used our lack of like-mindedness and the fact that I was working with my ex to not be on-board. Mind you, that was after my 1000 apologizes for all the “hurt” I caused her.
(I was in a tight spot).
She also used this time to ONCE AGAIN interject into my love life as if she knows what I want. Yes, she has a great guy that she talks to like shit, but that’s not what I’m looking for. Maybe to her I look mentally challenged, banging my head up against the wall (due to the relationship decisions I’ve made, and she feels any decision is better than what I’m doing). I have to think that because she is recommending men who are some “hell naws.” I’m not interested in dysfunction, coming together to suffer financially, or settling for someone who doesn’t make me happy.
What can I say…I don’t mind suffering in silence.